-Akshay Ranganath
So this is the story of greed. Or rather the limitless liking for money - and how indignified a person can get in his bottomless search for financial gratification.
A family friend of ours has a daughter for whom is looking for a match. The girl is a qualified doctor. The groom's family they'd gone to meet too were a family of doctors. Father - Head of Urology, Mother (late) - Gynecologist, daughter and son-in-law - doctors based in Australia. And the groom too had just completed his MD.
So when uncle met the groom's father things were went on very well. The son is quite intelligent, the home looks nice, parent looks quite civilized. Then started the marriage talks. The groom's father had over 100 acres of land in Belgam - and about 1 house each in 3 different cities of Karnataka. So, he'd accumulated enough money and property to last well past his lifetime, and mostly his son's lifetime as well. Or thereabouts, my uncle thought.
Then came the biggest shock. The HoD of college, practicing urologist asked uncle, "We'd like to buy a flat in Bangalore. Will you pay 50%?". My uncle was left 'flat' at this request and terminated the alliance. Looking at the background of the family, it is just incredible that the father even demanded a dowry.
What left me stumped is that all the education and the changes in India has still not made any mark on the mindset of people. Girls are still commodities. Dowry has to be taken since it is 'tradition'. No introspection is ever done on whether the request makes sense or sounds reasonable. Quite despicable indeed.
Thursday, November 26, 2009
Monday, November 09, 2009
Book Review: Two States by Chetan Bhagat
-Akshay Ranganath
Last week, I ordered the book "Two States" from Rediff Books. Amazingly swift, they delivered it to me in two days. And I managed to finish the book in about the same time :-)
This book, although a work of fiction is supposed to be partially true. The book explores the hypocrite behavior of Indians - our banal talk of "National Integration" and a racist attitude towards each other. All such serious matter explored and explained in a very humorous manner - in a love story. That in a nutshell is what this book is about.
From my perspective, it is a typical Chetan Bhaghat novel. It has the humor, the standard depressed soul who plans/is planning to commit suicide, lots of thought on sex and finally, a dig at the Indian culture and society. However, what I like in this book is the cultural aspect, especially, the North-South divide is so well written that it you can almost feel the characters come alive. For most part, you can visualize every one of the character as someone you know in your family.
The book quite very well raises interesting questions on the mindless belief in 'fair girls', 'purity before marriage', dowry, mutual distrust between cultures and the insensitive nature of our communication. For example, considering that all South Indians as dark and being in awe over a fair colored 'madrasi'.
Despite raising all such socially relevant questions, the book stays clear of becoming a book preaching anything and sticks to the narrative of how you manipulate around these prejudices to get what you want - to marry the one whom you truly like, and overcome the barriers imposed by the traditions and culture.
Its a very readable book - at just under 200 pages and costing just Rs 95, it is definitely worth a read.
Buy Book: India Only
Last week, I ordered the book "Two States" from Rediff Books. Amazingly swift, they delivered it to me in two days. And I managed to finish the book in about the same time :-)
This book, although a work of fiction is supposed to be partially true. The book explores the hypocrite behavior of Indians - our banal talk of "National Integration" and a racist attitude towards each other. All such serious matter explored and explained in a very humorous manner - in a love story. That in a nutshell is what this book is about.
From my perspective, it is a typical Chetan Bhaghat novel. It has the humor, the standard depressed soul who plans/is planning to commit suicide, lots of thought on sex and finally, a dig at the Indian culture and society. However, what I like in this book is the cultural aspect, especially, the North-South divide is so well written that it you can almost feel the characters come alive. For most part, you can visualize every one of the character as someone you know in your family.
The book quite very well raises interesting questions on the mindless belief in 'fair girls', 'purity before marriage', dowry, mutual distrust between cultures and the insensitive nature of our communication. For example, considering that all South Indians as dark and being in awe over a fair colored 'madrasi'.
Despite raising all such socially relevant questions, the book stays clear of becoming a book preaching anything and sticks to the narrative of how you manipulate around these prejudices to get what you want - to marry the one whom you truly like, and overcome the barriers imposed by the traditions and culture.
Its a very readable book - at just under 200 pages and costing just Rs 95, it is definitely worth a read.
Buy Book: India Only
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