Honeymoon - What I feel it means?

Marriages, they say, are made in heaven. I guess, you discover this bliss of the Paradise, even if for only a few days at those incredible days, spent as The Honeymoon

Until marriage, a boy and a girl may be in a serious relationship with total commitment to each other. Yet, there is a small amount of insecurity as the relationship is still not formal or legalized until it gets the stamp of the age-old institution of marriage. It is only when the couple get the blessings of all, make their relationship formal and take the pledge of staying "with each other until death" does them apart does the couple get into a higher plane where courtship ends and the life for each other really begins.

To get a couple used to each other to each other, tradition has it that they shall embark on a sacred journey of mutual discovery, a temporary Nirvana called Honeymoon.

It is a time when the couple have made the final plunge and the games of courtship has ended and a quest for the discovery of each other begins.

For a few days, the newly weds escape from the normal life, from work, from parents and friends. It is a time only for the two of them. As far as they are concerned, there are only two people on earth and nobody or nothing else matters.

The place selected for the honeymoon is generally a part of the earth pregnant with enchanting beauty. A place so exquisite and so filled with marvels of nature that you feel that you have finally reached the ultimate destination that so many religions speak of: Heaven, Swarga or Jannat.

At the feet of such lavish beauty, the couple when left alone can connect with the whispers of the wind, the freshness of the dew, the vista of the sunrise or the enchanting beauty of the moonlit sky.

I guess, a couple, when in such a close contact with nature can become like the children of Creation and loose all the cunningness that gets built over the years. Devoid of all the false facades, the two interact with each other like adults, yet, discover each other with the unquenching curiosity of a wide-eyed child.

At nights, when they can be with each other, without any guilt or worry is the real highlight. At a cold place, in the lap of Paradise, all that the two people can share is each other's warmth. I feel, when they fall into each other's arms, they do so after stripping off their masks that they put on for the world, of cloaks that they wear to ward off the arrows of pain that the world keeps hurling at them. What remains, is a pure human being, with only his values, principles and warmth. Nothing else. All other things are stripped away. It is at such a point in time that the man and woman open up completely. It is a time, when sex is an act of tender, yet enchanting journey of discovery. It is not the mindless, animalistic carnal thirst. The pure pleasure, the enchanting ecstasy and the consummating climax, all are moments when a human can experience heaven, right here on earth. In fact this quote from the movie Bicentennial Man sums up the meaning of sex so very well:

That you can lose yourself. Everything. All boundaries. All time. That two bodies can become so mixed up, that you don't know who's who or what's what. And just when the sweet confusion is so intense you think you're gonna die... you kind of do. Leaving you alone in your separate body, but the one you love is still there. That's a miracle. You can go to heaven and come back alive. You can go back anytime you want with the one you love.

This is also a time, when you allow yourself to be overwhelmed by your partner; a point, where you stop understanding where one person ends, and the other beings: it is a supreme point of oneness. A time, when you feel life has a lot of meaning and that, it is meaningless without your partner. Your partner and you. Nothing else.

Of course, the honeymoon does not last forever. As they say, to be in heaven, you gotta be dead first. So, the couple returns back to the daily life, a life filled with its own challenges, pains ,sufferings, tensions, worries, separations, meetings laced with lots of happiness and sadness.

With the passage of time, the enchantment of marriage vanishes. You are sucked into the daily grind of life. At times, situation seems so bad that the very partner with whom you had experienced a glimpse of the Paradise, feels like the greatest Satan

Yet, what services are the tender memories. Of times you spent holding hands and watching the sunset; of seeing a sky filled with millions of stars. Of times, when you had whispered the three magic words, "I love you" and had actually meant it. Of times when you just sat with each other and understood the vast meaning of silence. And of times, then you had promised, "No matter what, I'll be with you." Because, these are the moments that act as a balm against any tribulations of life and these are the promises that brings very heaven to the earth!